Look to yourself for feedback

The Sparkle Experiment small creative play equals connection

Wanting approval or feedback from others about your art when just starting out is understandable. We often ask others for opinions on other matters and so value an outsiders point of view. But if you’re only looking for external validation that what you’re doing is worth the time investment and the feedback isn’t 100% encouraging, you may find yourself disheartened (keeping your art secret may be a good idea).

Tara Mohr in Playing Big says “Feedback gives us facts about the opinions and preferences of those giving the feedback. It can’t tell you about your merit or worthiness. When we understand this, we’re free; we’re free to seek, gather, and incorporate feedback.” When creativity is subjective and personal taste so varied, there is no one ‘right’ opinion. When we let go of what other people think, we leave space to discover what we think. Being self-reflective about your own art helps grow tastes, preferences and your ideas as an artist. Seeking others opinions won’t get you any closer to discovering what art lights you up.

Mohr make the point that women are more likely to have a dependence to praise: “When a woman is trying to unhook from dependence on praises, it’s no trivial matter. She is working on retraining her mind from generations – old conditioning about what is required to survive.”

It’s no easy feat to let go of seeking eternal praise, especially when it can feel so good. But unhooking from the dependence of that praise and replacing it with your own feedback, your art doesn’t have to fit someone else’s expectations. You can instead get on with the fun task of making more art – art that you find interesting and you love to make.